Rabu, 08 Februari 2012

Boys and Cheating

So the Japanese boys around me are doing this popular thing called, "cheating". Familiar? Of course. Not only in here but throughout the world. It often happens. Some enjoy it some oppose it. But I don't want to talk about that. What I do want to talk about is how "cheating" can affect a person's way of thinking.
"cheating" does not do this to everyone, but it affects some of my Japanese friends and I actually wish that it will not continue. Both sides of each couple may be affected but it's the "cheater" that I am going to talk about here. And I am segmenting my focus to the guys.
Ok. So when a guy cheats, what happens to his relationship with his girlfriend? Break up? or move on from that problem and just continue with the relationship? Since the people around me chose to continue their relationship after the "cheating" incident, I'll talk about them.
I've just figured this out a couple of minutes ago and it's confirmed by the guys. So apparently, when guys cheat and they can just get away with it, pride popped out in their heads and it's hard to leave. Why? It is actually obvious, regardless of how their girlfriends would react, guys find girls they like, ask them out, and voila! they cheat on their girlfriend. And eventually their girlfriends find out, get mad, cry. But after that, suddenly their relationships are okay again. And here in Japan, their traditional culture that emasculate women and gives the high power to man makes the girls tend to forgive easily and keep their feelings inside. For these reasons, of course the guys will feel like they have pride, and also power over their girlfriends. Because they can cheat and after that their girlfriends will still take them back. The guys turned into thinking that nothing is wrong with this and being that kind of guy is cool. Hence, it is hard for them to stop.
So how about it, girls? What do you think about this? Any opinion comes to mind?